Men and Change...

Why is it that after you've been with a man for so long they change? They get comfortable and they stop doing the sweet little things that attracted you to them in the first place. It's like they think since they already have you, they don't have to try anymore. The chase is over, they won, game over. Gone are the days of opening your door or holding your hand, except when there's somebody else in the car. They stop listening. They may hear you and acknowledge things you say, but they no longer retain the information. Then later on they make you feel like you're crazy cause they have no idea what you're talking about. You go out for a date night and they stop having conversation with the meal. You go out as a group to a bar or a club and they stop paying much attention to you. People end up assuming that one of the other guys in the group is your boyfriend because they actually pay attention. You start questioning yourself. Wondering what it is that you're doing wrong. What you're doing to make them change. Old insecurities start surfacing more often. You get depressed, you get anxious, you start to fall apart. Others start fulfilling the emotional needs that your man no longer fills. Then this leads to other problems. You wonder if you're really supposed to be in that relationship. You wonder if you've made a mistake, moved too quickly. You wonder what it would be like with somebody else. Then you figure why the hell even bother with wondering because they are all the same. They will all change eventually no matter how sweet they start out. It ends up as you've made your bed now you'll lay in it. Which just leads to more confusion and insecurity...